Bedtime was frustration time for Aaron because 2-year-old Emma would make him sing “Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star” over and over for an hour, until she fell asleep.

“She insisted that I sing ‘Twinkle’ to her about 10 gazillion times…again and again!” he said. “Sometimes she seems to be asleep and I’ll try to ease myself off her bed, but if I make any tiny sound, she’ll immediately grumble out a half-asleep demand, ‘Twinkle!!!’ and I know I’ll be stuck there for another 20 minutes, until she’s fast asleep.”

Sleep Tricks to Get Toddlers to Sleep

To save Aaron’s sanity, I taught him a simple trick based on patience-stretching to put his toddler to sleep fast. For a week, I had Aaron do three things to prepare Emma for sleep success:

  1. Turn on white noise. Use rough, rumbly sound for all Emma’s naps and night sleep. About an hour before bedtime, he quietly played the rain on the roof track from a CD—and continued it until morning—increasing the sound—each night—until it was as loud as a shower.

  2. Use a lovey. Give Emma a lovey each night. (I'm partial to SNOObear, which is also a white noise machine!)

  3. Practice patience-stretching. Do this five times a day. Soon Emma was able to wait a whole minute without complaining.

Now Aaron was ready to start the twinkle interruptus strategy for putting his toddler to sleep.

Getting Your Toddler to Sleep

That first night, Aaron put on the white noise, snuggled with Emma, and sang her song for a few minutes. Then he shot his finger up in the air—as if he’d suddenly remembered something important­­—and announced, “Wait! Wait! I forgot to kiss Mommy. Here, hold Teddy. I’ll be RIGHT back.” He hurried out for 5 seconds.

Emma’s practice with patience-stretching during the week gave her the confidence to wait those few seconds. She remembered that when Daddy said “Wait! Wait!” and left, he would be right back.

Soon Aaron slid back into the room whispering, “Good waiting! Good waiting!” He immediately cuddled up with his little girl and started singing again. Another few minutes, he repeated the same “Wait! Wait!” routine, but this time he disappeared for 15 seconds.

Again, Emma tolerated it fine, and when he returned, he repeated, “Good waiting! Good waiting!” and sang to her until she fell asleep.

The next night, Aaron repeated the same actions—but his first exit lasted for 30 seconds and his second lasted for a full minute. And when he tiptoed in at the end of the second time, Emma was fast asleep. And she stayed asleep for the night!

You’ll really have fun with this approach. It works about 75% of the time for kids over 18 months of age (and I’ve even had success with twinkle interruptus in helping a few 12-month-olds sleep train without a tear!).

What to Do if Your Toddler Still Won’t Fall Asleep

If your toddler cries when you leave, immediately return to comfort her—she may be experiencing some special stress, anxiety, or fear. Over the next few days, keep doing patience-stretching during the day, white noise for sleeping times, and make sure she has a lovey to hold when you go away.

Next, when you try twinkle interruptus again, don’t leave the room. After saying, “Wait! Wait!” simply go across the room and pretend to be searching for something. Then return to the bed again and say, “Good waiting!” Gradually increase the amount of time you spend on the other side of the room. If she tolerates that well after a couple of days, try leaving the room for a short period again.

Please don’t think of this as devious. Everyone is tired and has low frustration tolerance at bedtime, so this is a better time to be a little tricky than to enter into a battle of wills.

For more advice about how to boost cooperation and eliminate toddler tantrums, check out Happiest Toddler on the Block.

About Dr. Harvey Karp

Dr. Harvey Karp, one of America’s most trusted pediatricians, is the founder of Happiest Baby and the inventor of the groundbreaking SNOO Smart Sleeper. After years of treating patients in Los Angeles, Dr. Karp vaulted to global prominence with the release of the bestselling Happiest Baby on the Block and Happiest Toddler on the Block. His celebrated books and videos have since become standard pediatric practice, translated into more than 20 languages and have helped millions of parents. Dr. Karp’s landmark methods, including the 5 S’s for soothing babies, guide parents to understand and nurture their children and relieve stressful issues, like new-parent exhaustion, infant crying, and toddler tantrums.

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