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  • Gossip is one of my favorite ways to green-light good behavior.

    Gossip means saying things out loud near your child, so he overhears. It works so well because all of us (kids and adults) are more likely to believe something if we overhear it than if it’s told directly to us. Gossip makes your praise 5 times more effective. (And it makes your words of criticism have 5 times more impact too.)

    For example, if a friend says, “You look beautiful,” you might just brush it off as a polite remark. But if you accidentally overhear her saying this to someone else, you’ll probably grin and take it to your heart. (After all, you overheard it, so it wasn’t said to “butter you up.”)

    Not only do we tend to believe things we overhear, but when those comments are whispered—like a secret—we believe them even more.

    When and How to Start Gossiping Around Your Child

    Gossiping is best used for toddlers once they have reached the age of 15-18 months. That’s when they begin to understand that people whisper when they’re saying something extra important.

    To start, let your child over-hear you praise him… in a loud whisper.

    One day Louise brought her 3-year-old to me for a sore throat. Rather than battling Turner to open his mouth, I used gossip. Leaning toward Louise, I loudly whispered, “I really like it when Turner opens his mouth and shows me his big lion teeth.” As I spoke, I cupped my hand next to my mouth, like I was telling a secret (I kept my fingers spread a bit to let him see my open mouth, so he knew what I wanted him to do). A few seconds later, when I switched on my light, Turner immediately opened wide…like magic!

    With your toddler nearby, whisper some praise about her to someone else. You can whisper it to anybody—even a doll, or someone you pretend to be talking to on the phone. Don’t wink or look at your child when you do this. Gossiping only works when he thinks you don’t want to be overheard.

    Cup your hand alongside your mouth and, in a loud whisper, say to the birdies outside, “Psst…hey, Mr. Birdie! Lauren ate all her peas! Yeah…every one!” Then turn back to your child like nothing happened and give her a little understated praise. “Good eating, Lauren!” Even if your tot doesn’t understand all your words, your admiring tone of voice will make her feel valued!

    If your child leans in to listen, whisper more quietly…like you’re telling a juicy secret. For an older toddler, mumble some of the words so he can’t hear them all. This really makes it seem like you don’t want to be overheard. If he gleefully exclaims, “I hear you!” just say, “Oh, it’s nothing. I’m just talking to Mr. Birdie.”

    Later on, repeat the same compliment to someone else. Your child will be pleased and think, Wow, this must be true, because I’m hearing it a lot lately.

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