Most people think a baby is ready for slumber when her eyes get lidded and her head slumps against our shoulder. Actually, at that point she is overtired.
Many babies can sleep anywhere, anytime. But those with a challenging temperament or poor state control live on a tightrope. Growing weariness can suddenly tip them off balance and send them crashing down from a happy alertness to exhausted misery in a blink.
So if your well-meaning neighbor says to keep your tired baby awake during the day to boost her sleep at night, don’t do it! This strategy may work for adults, but it usually backfires with babies, leading to bigger struggles falling into sleep…and staying there.
In his classic book Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Baby, sleep expert Dr. Mark Weissbluth states, “Sleep begets sleep.” He’s right…and that’s why experienced parents put their babies to sleep before they get overtired.
As shown in the sample 2-month-old schedule above during these early months, your best bet is to put your little bug in bed after 1.5-2 hours of wakefulness, hopefully at–– or just before––she shows these early signs of fatigue:
- Reduced activity, smiling, and talking (or even frowning!).
- Staring, blinking and rubbing the eyes.
- Increased fussing.
As time goes on, it will get easier and easier to recognize your little one’s sleepy-time cues. Putting her down before she gets overtired and cranky will not only be easier for you, but it will also set her up to get the best sleep possible!