We are two working parents, so patience and time are frequently limited. I much prefer to use words that expand her vocabulary, not baby words. So, imagine my surprise when I heard that part of the technique was using simple words and phrases, repetition and matching the emotions of the child. Despite the positive praises in the DVD, I was still skeptical. As I was watching the video, my husband was bringing my two year old toddler up the stairs to bed. She was wailing and he was using his best firm voice. I rushed in the room and used the technique. This child stopped and looked at me like I was a crazy person. She then ran over to me and gave me a hug. I then told her that it was time to go to bed and asked her to help me take off her shoes. Battle #1 over. As is the norm in our house, the toddler gets in the crib and bounces, sings and calls out to us for 30 – 60 minutes EVERY Night. So, I go into the room and using the technique (even though this is not a true tantrum). After I ackn her desire not to go to sleep, I tell her that it is night-night time and ask for a hug before she goes to sleep. She gives me a hug, grabs her blanket and places her head on the pillow. I rushed to my computer to share the joy. She’s not even singing herself to sleep. Despite the silly feeling of matching your child’s emotions and simplified language, it really seems to work because the child realizes that you understand what they are feeling. Geez, this is the same stuff they teach in all communication (interpersonal skills) classes. Give it a try. It’s worth every penny. Oh, I bought the video instead of the book, because I wanted to see the techniques in action. I may pick up a used copy of the book to remind me of the techniques. There are a few and since we have a couple of additional years to survive, it’s nice to have an easy reference.