All babies cry. And thank God they do! Crying allows our small, helpless babies to let us know when they have pain, hunger or need our help. Some mild-tempered babies just whimper for minutes, vying for your attention, even when they’re super-hungry. Other very sensitive, or spirited, babies overreact and launch into blood-curdling screams, even when they just want a little holding or a diaper change! Whether your little one is an easy-going surfer dude or a passionate drama queen, you will just have to get to know your baby’s personality, figure out what’s going on when the crying starts, and respond the best you can.
5 Mostly Imagined Reasons Babies Cry
Here are five things you may hear about...that almost never happen. 1. Your baby is mad at you. Nope! It takes months for them to learn anger. 2. Your baby senses your anxiety. Nope! Your little one doesn’t have the psychological skills to suss out if you're anxious, depressed or frustrated. 3. Your baby has a wet diaper. Nope! A study was done in which wet diapers were removed from crying babies. Then the wet diapers were put right back on! Most babies calmed right down, even though they were still sitting in dampness. 4. Your baby has acid reflux pain. Very rarely! All babies have reflux (we call it “spitting up"), but it's hardly ever a reason for crying. As long as they are gaining weight nicely, skip the medicine and focus on soothing with the “5 S’s," my method for calming babies. 5. Your baby needs probiotics. Nope! Bad bacteria are rarely a problem because: a) Preemies have tons of bad intestinal bacteria, yet never get colic before their due date; b) Breast-fed babies have “sweeter” intestinal bacteria, but have just as much colicky crying as bottle-fed babies; c) colic disappears after 3-4 months, yet those bigger babies still have plenty of smelly germs in their poop.
5 Very Real Reasons Your Baby May Cry
Focus on these and stop worrying about the other stuff! 1. She is hungry. This is the first thing to check. Even if you fed your baby 30 minutes ago, he may just need a touch more to be satisfied. 2. He is uncomfortable. Today we don’t need to worry about pokes from open safety pins, but do check if he’s hot, cold or has a diaper rash. 3. She has tummy pain. Some sensitive babies hate the normal peristalsis – tightening of the intestines – that happens after eating. But, a little tummy massage or the "5 S’s" usually do the trick. BTW, no studies have proven any benefit from “gripe water” or “burp drops.” 4. He is over-excited or over-tired. Noise and commotion can overwhelm a baby. And, keeping your baby awake ... to make him extra tired ... so he’ll sleep longer at night ... usually BACKFIRES! Overtired babies cry more in the day, and wake more at night! 5. She wants to be held by you! In the womb, the little guy had non-stop cozy touch. That’s why fussy babies often calm as soon as they are held, carried in a sling, put skin-to-skin or swaddled snugly. But, if you check everything and your baby is still upset, then there is...
One More BIG Reason You're Baby May Cry
1. He is under-stimulated! Remember, life in the womb is a symphony of touch, jiggles and strong whooshing. So, being too long in a quiet, still place can make your baby a little loco! That’s why the rhythms of the "5 S’s" are such effective baby calmers, even for big screamers.